Who Are You?!

As we continue to search for love and live a life that matters, I have some food for thought items that your mind has surely been craving...please, indulge your intellect and give nourishment to your mind by reading and reflecting on the following post...

To those who continue their search for the one, with whom they feel a long term commitment can be shared...

Back Up.

Take a break. Pause. Spend time with you and only you. Clear the clouds that keep you from seeing what the surface of your life, your earth looks like. Let the mountains, peaks, valleys, earthquakes, icecaps and streams of your life's happenings be crystal clear.

Know Thyself.

Take that time and discover who you are. Ask yourself questions, write them, write your answers. Record who you are at that very moment in what you think and feel. Who am I? What do I like? What is love? How is God actively blessing me? How am I being true to myself? In what ways am I being who others expect me to be? What do I want most out of life? What are my flaws? How have I grown? What are my goals? Why are these goals important to my life? What are your struggles? What is your purpose in life? Who do you want to be? What are you afraid of? Define beauty.

Know Thy Wants.

Now that you have created an accurate picture of you right now. Use this momentum, after a short pause but still in a mind of clarity, to then narrate (not list) what you want in a partner. What characteristics do you value in a partner? Annnnd go! Define what you mean by what you mention as you write. Paint the full picture, be clear.

Know Thy Desires.

"If there is something to desire, there will be something to regret. If there is something to regret, there will be something to recall. If there is something to recall, there was nothing to regret. If there was nothing to regret, there was nothing to desire." ~Pavlova

Know Thy Sacrifices.

To whom much is given...much will be exfoliated away. In situations where we are desirous of a person that we find has the things that we want and can support the person who we've defined we are, there comes a point where we must be challenged. This challenge can be a small obstacle or happening, or it can be a part of us that requires further refining or defining. Exfoliation if you will, to remove the useless surfaces of ourselves to reveal the smoothness and receptive nature of new skin. This does not mean that we should compromise who we are for what we want. This instead means that in order to fully receive someone as they are and who they want to be, we have to understand our own journey and be adaptive to that journey together, along the way.

I repeat. The above inquiries to yourself should all be written. Pen to paper. This is so important to do as we make the decisions in life of what career path to follow, who we want to share our lives with and how we want to matter to ourselves and our God as we flow through this world. This exercise and investment in yourself will assist you to, as my dear friend Luqman has highlighted:

"See how realistic you are. What your thinking process is. What's important. [Give a] clear picture. Prevent going on emotions alone. [Provides a] written record."

~Hasta Pronto